Question by Cool Like a Summer Breeze: Friend’s dad is emotionally abusing her?
My friend’s dad got a girlfriend about 4 months ago. Her dad is 58 and his girlfriend is about 10 years younger. Ever since he got the girlfriend (who btw, lives 4 hrs away on the other side of the state) he was been spending more time with her than with his own daughter. She always tells me that they fight and never get along. He leaves for about 2-3 weeks straight leaving her alone with very little money. He also works at a fire station 2 hrs away. We’ve both been looking for jobs, so please don’t tell us that we are lazy, but in today’s economy it’s hard for the younger generation to find jobs, whether they pay well or not. He always comes up with excuses saying he only goes there every once in a while. He is all she has left, her mother left them alone when she was 7. I told her not to talk to her dad anymore because all he does is call her selfish, he always says everything is her fault, and says he loves and misses his gf…barely/never to his own daughter…only when confronted he says it, but he lies and says he does. She already left the house and is staying with me ( I’m a 17 year old guy, she’s an 18 year old girl) her dad thinks we are having sex which in fact is not true, I wouldn’t do that, she’s my friend. He however is the one having sex because my friend saw birth control pills on his gf’s dresser. He says that him and his gf’s relationship is none of his daughter’s business…”what she and I do over there alone is none of your business.” I told her to stop talking to her dad, because every time it only gets worse, but she insists that she wants to keep talking to him, it makes me mad, they don’t deserve to be talking to each other, all he does is verbally abuse her which leads to emotional abuse. What should be done? He would never go to counseling, in fact he insists that she is the one who needs counseling. He has an excuse for everything, he blames, lies, and only sees things his way. My friend goes to church with me, and I keep telling her that her dad probably needs Jesus, but that doesn’t interest him. His gf’s however is Christian…yet they always have sex, they’re not even married, and he claims she is classy.
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Answer by Wheep Wheep Piggy Feet
The two of you (you and your friend) should talk to a pastor or priest about this… please tell someone in authority about this.
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Pearl L
on 12th Feb, 12 12:02am
youre already helping her and thats good. as for her father if she had been under 18 he couldve been in a lot of trouble cause hes abandoning his own daughter all the time without giving her money. not sure if you can do anything now since shes 18. all you can do is help her, to be honest if my father did that i wouldnt want to talk to him myself.
The Hidden
on 12th Feb, 12 12:02am
Someone needs to make a free call these people 24/7:
http://www.klove.com
http://www.newlife.com
http://www.focusonthefamily.org
Call one or all. Please! These people will offer great help and prayers.
deb.peg1
on 12th Feb, 12 12:02am
You both are apparently old enough to deal with this.
She’s not going to have the support of her father, either financially or emotionally. She’s better off without him.
You are legally an adult and evidently on your own.
Life sucks, but we all have to do what we have to do in order to get where we want to be.
Don’t be surprised if she suddenly leaves you.